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The Mindful Marriage Conference & Book

This highly-endorsed, #1 Amazon bestselling book and highly-rated conference are now available!

 

“In all of our 48 years of marriage this has been the best marriage conference we've ever attended. What Ron and Nan presented was the most practical that we've ever heard. Please have them back if you can."

– Conference Participant, Oklahoma City

 

“This has been THE BEST, most hands-on, practical, raw, and healing teaching that we have had in all our years of attending cruises, marriage conferences, classes, etc. Ron & Nan Deal were amazing, real, and transparent along with providing the practical steps for us to walk out this teaching in our life. We are in awe of the way they have allowed God to turn their mess into an incredible message...”

– FamilyLife sponsored event participant
 

"Ron & Nan Deal’s seminar allowed my husband and I to get to heart level pain and gave us practical tracks to run on to humble ourselves and extend grace to each other. I related with their story SO MUCH. Their seminar was the BEST thing FamilyLife has ever offered. Completely scripturally supported and 100% getting to the bottom heart-level transformational place where the Holy Spirit can make us new and really move."

-- Marriage Cruise Attendee

 

In February 2022 Ron & Nan Deal's The Mindful Marriage Conference™ was the talk of the FamilyLife marriage cruise (at that time titled Empowered to Love). In 2023, an entire SanDestin Resort getaway was organized by FamilyLife around this seminar. And now, you can bring The Mindful Marriage conference to your church and community. 

 

What's your reactive coping style? Take the Assessment   |   Find Events   |   Submit a Speaking Request   |   Download FREE Bonus Content 

 

A BIBLICALLY-BASED, LAUGH AND LEARN MARRIAGE ENRICHMENT EVENT FOR COUPLES

 

At the intersection of Biblical principles for marriage, social science, and edutainment (“education designed to entertain and amuse”) is this dynamic and practical marriage seminar. The Mindful Marriage Conference™ is designed to inspire, educate, and encourage couples in all seasons of life (pre-marriage, marriage, and blended family marriage) toward greater intimacy and stability. Designed for healthy and distressed couples alike. 

This cutting-edge training event teaches couples:

  • how to operationalize the Biblical quality of humility in their everyday lives;
  • how to map their emotionally dysregulated moments (every couple does this!) and examine what drives it;
  • and how to replace those moments with self-regulation, rooted in love and trustworthiness, that fosters peace and emotional safety
  • Couples leave the event with an intimate plan, specific to their relationship, for building peace and intimacy in their usness (Couple Peace Cycle)

Topics include:

  • Why neurological reactivity occurs in every marriage and how it hurts your "usness"
  • The pride/humility dynamic in marriage, and how to operationalize humility when you need it most
  • The two pillars of healthy relationships and why communication skills are never enough
  • The relationship between pain and behavior in marriage (Pain Cycle)
  • The four coping reactions to pain: blame, shame, control, & escape
  • And, the four steps of self-regulation (renewing your mind) and emotional safety that transforms relationships (Peace Cycle)
  • Healing journey insights

 

For perspective, one reviewer of our book The Mindful Marriage called the material "deep calling to deep". The Mindful Marriage Conference is the same. This is not a content-light fluff event. If you want to attend or host an event that will offer significant discipleship training in combination with marriage enrichment, this is your event. We teach people practically how to renew their minds, down to their brain's neural networks. Yes, we make it fun. But not at the expense of deepening the spiritual maturity of your audience. If this is the kind of event you desire for your marriage, church, or community, find an event or complete a speaking request. 

 

 

 

An Amazon #1 Bestselling Book

 

"We've been in therapy for almost five years and we have made more progress

with this material than therapy. This is life-changing."

 

“I highly recommend this book,” Dr. Gary Chapman  |  “Their principles can revolutionize marriages...Highly recommended!” Dr. John Townsend  |   Groundbreaking… Practical and transformative, I highly recommend this book." Steve Arterburn  |  “...insights and practical tools to help you transform intimacy in your relationship.” Dr. Juli Slattery  |  “...this book will help you regulate yourself and bring new hope, passion, and power into your marriage." Lee Warren, MD  |  ...plus 23 more expert endorsements. 

 

 

Buy the book on Amazon  |  Barnes & Noble  |  Books-A-Million  |  Our Publisher 

Small Groups - The Mindful Marriage is a natural small group study. No extra guide needed. Just read a chapter and discuss. Do the included exercises, share insights, and help each other walk out the principles. Plus, our optional FREE bonus material, including a workbook for personal reflection, can be helpful for the group. Buy a copy for each couple in your group and just get started! Appropriate for dating, engaged, married, and blended family couples.

 

 

 

Ron & Nan Deal Speaking

Speakers: Ron & Nan Deal

Typical Schedule:

Friday Night: 7:00—8:45 PM

  • 6:00 pm: Check-in begins
  • 7:00—8:45 pm: The Pride/Humility Dynamic in Your Marriage: Longing for Peace

Saturday: 9:00—1:00 PM

  • 9:00—10:30 am: Putting on Humility: Love, Trust, and Growing Up
  • 10:30—10:45 am: Break
  • 10:45—11:45 am: Humility in Conflict: The Four Steps
  • 11:45—12:00 pm: Break
  • 12:00—1:00 pm: From Old to New: Renewing Your Mind, Renewing Your Usness

Find Events   |   Download FREE Bonus Content   |   Submit a Speaking Request

 

 

What's your reactive coping style?
Take the Assessment

Ron and Nan help the founders of Marriage365 discover their reactive coping style and how it impacts their marriage. To discover yours, take our assessment, purchase a copy of The Mindful Marriage, or attend The Mindful Marriage Conference.

Should Your Spouse Fix You?

Ron & Nan Deal interviewed on the FamilyLife Today national radio broadcast/podcast about their book The Mindful Marriage. This is day two of a three-part series (listen to all three here or on your podcast app).

 

 

What People Are Saying

Ron and Nan Deal on stage at B&B

Ron and Nan Deal on stage at a conference

Empowered to Love - Destin

 
"Heart-wrenching, deep thinking, eye-opening, awakening, soul searching, loving, fun, exciting, engaging, new content, POWERFUL.”
"We were Stuck in the pain cycle badly. Each blamed the other for the hurt, not seeing our own baggage and certainly not seeing or empathizing with the pain the other was living and reacting out of. We had a small conflict near the end of the event that allowed us to step into the new process and it was a great change for both of us. We are so grateful. Glory to God!”
"Amazing impact. Great material and we want to implement it at our local church. But it impacted me personally addressing the inadequate mode I go into. I feel so much peace leaving the conference. God bless you all.”
"It allowed us to talk about tools to improve our marriage and our walk with Christ that we normally put off or just don't have time for.”
"The content really opened our eyes to the power and effect of humility in not only our marriage but also in other relationships and areas of our lives. We realize that we need to give control to God and trust He knows what's best in EVERY situation.”
“Very positive. It helped us both realize that we can react differently and have a lot of common feelings, but we now have coping strategies too. This topic and way of teaching were perfect for us. Thank you!”
“I feel like the 4-step Humility Shift will be a game-changer for our marriage. We have a place to start in dealing with things that keep getting us stuck in the same patterns. I think this will help me a lot in my work relationships as well. Thank you, Ron and Nan, for being so real with us.”
“I was finally able to understand why I respond the way I do. My wife and I now feel like we have figuratively diagnosed our pains and coping patterns. Now we can put on humility to receive grace. We were even able to use the "new self/peace cycle" immediately during a disagreement during our trip. Our marriage is stronger from these sessions.”
“It gave us a better perspective on how our family backgrounds and experiences affect our interactions with one another. The concepts presented were life-changing! We always hear about how the baggage we bring into our marriage affects the relationship, but there is very little presented on how to overcome the challenges that our baggage presents. This seminar gave us the tools to be successful. Thank you to Ron and Nan for sharing openly about the challenges that they had in their relationship. It gives hope to other couples who are struggling with challenges in their marriage.”